When I was pregnant with my first child, I had grand plans of having her sleep peacefully in her own crib in her own cozy room. I read books, attended classes, and prepared everything meticulously to make sure it would happen.
But as many parents know, plans don't always go as planned, especially when it comes to babies and sleep. My daughter cried every time we put her down in the crib, and we spent countless sleepless nights trying to soothe her. One night, out of desperation, I brought her into our bed and cuddled her close. To my surprise, she immediately calmed down and fell asleep soundly.
That was the beginning of our bedsharing journey, which wasn't part of my original plan, but I've come to embrace it fully now. In this article, I'll share some quantifiable examples of the unexpected benefits of bedsharing and some practical tips on how to make it work for your family.
The most significant benefit of bedsharing with my toddler is that we all sleep much better. Because she's nestled close to me, she feels secure and comforted, which allows her to fall asleep more easily and stay asleep longer. I, on the other hand, can monitor her breathing and movements without getting up from bed, which puts my mind at ease. Plus, I can nurse her more easily if she wakes up hungry, which means less fussing and crying.
Besides, bedsharing also improved the quality of my own sleep. I no longer have to worry about checking on her every few minutes or getting up to feed her multiple times a night since she's right there next to me. As a result, I wake up feeling more rested and refreshed, which makes me a happier and more patient parent during the day.
Another unexpected benefit of bedsharing is that it has strengthened the bond between my daughter and me. We spend several hours each night cuddled up, breathing the same air, and feeling each other's warmth. That kind of physical closeness creates a sense of security and intimacy that's hard to replicate in other situations.
Studies have shown that bedsharing can promote attachment and bonding between parents and infants, which can have positive long-term effects on a child's mental and emotional well-being. Bedsharing also promotes breastfeeding, which is another bonding activity that improves a child's health and development.
Lastly, bedsharing has also been shown to have positive effects on a child's cognitive and social development. When a child feels secure and comforted, they're more likely to explore their environment, take risks, and develop a sense of curiosity and independence. Bedsharing has also been linked to higher levels of empathy, compassion, and social intelligence in children.
Of course, as with any parenting decision, bedsharing has its potential drawbacks and risks, which I'll discuss later in this article. But for my family, the benefits have outweighed the risks significantly.
If you're considering bedsharing with your toddler, here are some practical tips to make it work for your family:
First and foremost, it's essential to create a safe sleeping environment for your toddler. Use a firm, flat mattress with tight-fitting sheets and blankets, and keep pillows and other soft objects away from your child's face. Make sure there are no gaps between the bed and the wall or headboard that your toddler could fall into. You can also use bed guards to prevent falls.
It's also important to follow safe sleep guidelines, such as placing your toddler on their back to sleep (unless they prefer another position), avoiding bedsharing if you're under the influence of drugs or alcohol or if you have a sleep disorder, and ensuring that your toddler is dressed appropriately for the room temperature. Also, make sure that the room is well-ventilated and not too warm.
If you're bedsharing with your partner, it's crucial to communicate clearly and establish ground rules about who sleeps where and how to ensure everyone's comfort and safety. Make sure that both of you are comfortable with bedsharing and that you're both aware of the risks and benefits.
It's also important to be mindful of your toddler's needs when bedsharing. For example, if your toddler is still nursing, make sure that you're comfortable and that they have easy access to your breast. If your toddler is restless or has trouble sleeping, try different positions or techniques, such as swaddling or using a white noise machine.
Finally, it's essential to consider alternatives to bedsharing if it's not working for your family. For example, you can try using a co-sleeper or a bassinet next to your bed, which allows you to be close to your toddler without bedsharing. You can also try different sleep training techniques or seek advice from a sleep consultant or a pediatrician if you're concerned about your toddler's sleep habits.
After years of bedsharing with my toddler, I've come to appreciate the unexpected benefits it brings to my family. Better sleep, stronger bonding, and enhanced cognitive and social skills are just some of the positive effects that bedsharing has on my daughter and me. Of course, bedsharing has its risks and potential drawbacks, but by following safe sleep guidelines and being mindful of my toddler's needs, I feel confident that we're bedsharing in a safe and comfortable way.
So, if you're considering bedsharing with your toddler, I encourage you to weigh the risks and benefits carefully and make a decision that feels right for your family. And if you do decide to bedshare, remember to create a safe and comfortable sleeping environment, follow safe sleep guidelines, and be mindful of your toddler's needs. Sweet dreams!
Keywords: Bedsharing, Toddler, Parenting, Safe Sleep, Co-Sleeping.
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